Where’s the line between homeschooling and parenting?
I find more and more that being an involved and interested parent is what drives our homeschooling success. Less and less of our homeschooling lives is a derivative of an “educational” perspective. By being interested in the world, and by being engaged humans, we end up learning about the world, and so do the kids.
I look at successful homeschooling families that I know, ones that I admire. The families that I look up to are the ones who are just so relaxed. They are secure, enthusiastic…they are fearless.
These families aren’t just homeschooling. They’ve embraced learning as a way of life. And have embraced the idea that everyone is a learner. I’m not just talking about the proverbial unschooler. I’m talking about families of all different ways of going about educating their kids. They have this aura about them than no matter what happens, it’s all gonna be OK.
I noticed that their parenting styles reflect this. That they aren’t worried if their kids are going to fail, or if their kids are going to make mistakes, they don’t obsess about what the future holds. They aren’t worried because they appreciate who their kids are now. And they trust their kids. They trust their kids will usually land on their feet, just like everyone else.
Parents who match their homeschooling style to their parenting style, these are the families who seem to me, to be the most successful. Since homeschooling just fits right in with their parental and family philosophies anyway, it’s a relatively easy transition.
Another thing I’ve noticed too, and it happened to us; homeschooling changes the way we parent. By thinking about education and what it means to us, a lot of what we’ve hashed through extends out into what it means to us to raise children. I know that my parenting perspective has changed a lot since I’ve been involved in the homeschooling community. And the more I read, the more it develops. I don’t think I’ll ever be done learning about how to be a better parent, a better homeschooler or a better person.
How about you, have you notice a link between parenting and homeschooling?