Are you worried about anything? Socialization? Keeping up? Teaching everything? Doing it right?
What purpose does worrying serve? Worrying means you are going over it in your head but not actually addressing the issue. Worrying is a way for us to trick ourselves into thinking that something is “important”, when in fact, it’s not.
When things are important to us, we don’t worry about them. We do something about them. If you are doing something about them, there’s no reason to worry. If something is really important, don’t worry about it, do what you can then let the universe do the rest.
Worried you aren’t doing enough? You’re giving up your power. By worrying whether you are doing enough you are saying, “I’m powerless to control this thing, so I worry about it to make myself feel like I’m “doing” something.” But guess what, you’re not.
If you want back your power, don’t worry about things, think about them. Simply change your vocabulary. If you start to say, “I’m worried about XYZ,” Stop, correct yourself and say, “I’m thinking about XYZ.” By thinking about it, you are giving critical brain-time to a problem. By worrying about something, you’re spinning your wheels. And by changing your vocabulary, you’re making one big step towards both dealing with the problem, and regaining your power in a situation where you might not be able to do anything right away.
Worrying also assumes a certain amount of negativity. Thinking about something is neutral.
Imagine, you’re talking to your doctor, and he says, “I’m worried about your prognisis.” Imagine the same situation and he says, “I’m thinking about your prognosis.” Which would you prefer he say? Which statement gives you the impression that he’s actually doing something helpful for you?
If there’s something on your mind that is worrying you, try this exercise of changing your vocabulary from “worry” to “thinking” about it.
Go from worrying about socialization to thinking about socialization.
Go from worrying about whether you’re doing enough to thinking about doing enough.
Go from worrying about your children’s lessons to thinking about their lessons.
Go from worrying about our children’s futures to thinking about their futures.
You’ll be more likely to move forward with the problem, you’ll have more power and you’ll have a more neutral (if not positive) outlook on the things that are the most important to you.