Not Everyone Should Homeschool

Yup. Agreed.

And not everyone should send their kids to public school.

Not everyone should send their kids to private.

Not everyone should use a charter school.


Anyone can homeschool. Anyone can succeed in homeschooling.

That is not true for the other three.

For, homeschooling can be adjusted any way we need to in order to find success.

The “not everyone should homeschool” stems from the fact that not everyone is willing to be flexible and open-minded about how to go about finding success. Not everyone should homeschool because not everyone is willing to take responsibility. The reasons that people “shouldn’t” homeschool come from inside. The reasons that people don’t succeed in homeschooling comes from inside. It has to. Because in homeschooling, nobody is telling you what to do.

In public school, private school or any other full-time “the school is where people learn” situation, success is based on external factors. “Accountability”. In other words, someone else decides if children are successful. Their grades, their teachers, their fellow students.

It can be argued that children can be successful in school “if they put their mind to it.” That might be true, but that success is *always* determined by external factors. A child’s internal success meter is completely irrelevant.

Don’t believe me? Try telling a teacher that your child is doing really good in math even though he got a D on his last test. Or try to convince a child who received a bad grade on his last writing assignment that he’s a great storyteller, and that the assessment doesn’t matter. How many years does it take for a child to stop listening to his internal success sensors and start to rely solely on his grades and teacher assessments to judge if he’s good at something?

And let’s not even talk about art, sports, friendships and other things that are on a very low priority rating on whether a person is successful in school.

So, not everyone can succeed in school. Because there are some people who, no matter how hard they try, won’t fit into the right size hole.

But everyone can succeed in homeschooling, if they figure out who they are, how they learn and are willing to go out and find what they need. Anyone who has the drive can succeed on their own terms on a homeschool. Every parent has the potential to be an awesome homeschooling parent. Every. Single. One. Because there’s no one right way to homeschool. To be a good homeschooling parent, it takes a solid knowledge of one’s self, confidence, trust and being willing to look at the world as one giant learning playground. Everyone has the potential inside them to find their place in the world, when there’s no boundaries of what that place is supposed to be.

And, after reading this, if you think homeschooling should only be done by “smart” people or “credentialed” people or some other random criteria of what’s “good enough”, then you’ve missed the whole point.

If something is bad in homeschooling – guess what – you can fix it. You have absolute freedom to fix anything that’s not working. Anything. Parent doesn’t feel smart enough – he can get smart with his kiddo. Parent is frustrated with making a schedule – he can redefine his schedule. Parent’s don’t have a ton of cash – there are a bazillion ways to learn that don’t cost a cent (and two bazillion ways to learn that only cost a teeny bit). You name it, there’s a solution. But NONE of these solutions are given to anyone on a silver platter.

Part of the homeschooling journey and part of the spectacular flexibility that comes with homeschooling is that it demands that we work the kinks out. We cannot hide the kinks. We can’t hide our problems. We can’t hand off our problems to another person. We have to take responsibility for our own issues and our children’s issues. And that, in itself, is a exemplary reason why homeschooling can work for anyone: the only roadblock to success in homeschooling is ourselves.

Let me repeat: The only roadblock to success in homeschooling, is ourselves.

School, of any kind, has a very small window of the definition of success. Therefore, a much smaller percentage of the population can do well there.

Homeschooling, on the other hand, has the potential of an infinite-sized window of what success is, defined by the student himself. Therefore, an infinite percentage of the population can do well there.

So, no, not everyone should homeschool. But not because homeschooling is difficult or inherently problematic. But because homeschooling is not where everyone wants to be. Only the people who want to homeschool, should homeschool. And of those who want to homeschool, every single one of them should. Those who don’t want to, shouldn’t. But that doesn’t mean they can’t. They can. You can. Everyone can.

2 Responses to “Not Everyone Should Homeschool”

  1. Mark Weiss Says:

    Flexibility is something that is available to home schooling that is not available in other venues. The key here is that the kids win big because of this. In addition, the resources available today to help the fledgling home school parent are amazing. The work is still done at home to be sure. However, where we once relied so heavily on community support groups, that kind of support through the internet is expanded to a degree that is amazing.

    One example, is found here. Homeschooling Carnival. From all the home schooling sources I read daily, ideas abound, one on one support is available if sought out. Again who wins big is the kids.

  2. sprittibee Says:

    Great article. 😉 From one homeschooler who has adjusted many times to flex and fix the way we do things to another…

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