Learning About Termites the Hard Way

termites.jpgWe had a termite infestation swarm today. Looks like termites have snuck into the walls of our house and created a little home for themselves. Now we have to fumigate.

The girls were the ones to discover the swarm. They were playing on the floor when they started screaming, “Mom! There’s a bug on the wall. No, there’s LOTS of bugs on the wall. And they have big wings!”

I have never in my life seen a termite. I knew that they eat houses and that when I see a house covered in a tent, it’s for the purpose of getting rid of them. But when I saw them, I thought they were flying ants.

So I called Terminix. They came out and verified that we indeed have termites. And they informed us that the de-termitification will cost a LOT of money.

Maybe there are benefits to learning things from books instead of from real life experience.

The up side? The Terminix guy gave us a bug-wheel, which the kids are now using to identify the various kinds of bugs we have seen in our house and backyard. It is an incredibly expensive bug classification project.
We can’t get the bug service until Saturday, so it looks like we’re on termite clean-up and maintenance duty until they get here. Any advice on how to manage the termites until the Terminix guys come to kill them all?

The Search for Homeschool Curriculum

913588_books_and_pages.jpgLittle do people know that when they are on the search for homeschool curriculum, what they are looking for isn’t the best book or superior materials — they are searching for themselves. When they find that perfect curriculum, and that perfect set of activities, projects, approaches to education, they have found what was already inside them. They have found themselves, and they have found their children.

When we know ourselves, and we know our kids, the search for curriculum stops, and it becomes a process of endless discovery.

When we search outside of ourselves for the answer, we will look forever, until we find the thing that mirrors back onto ourselves. When we get that mirror, we can give the outside thing the credit, or we can admit that, in fact, that thing is what we are looking for because it showed us who we are. Everything we need is inside us already. It just sometimes takes things on the outside to show that to us. Then the question is, can we be honest about it?

Searching for the right curriculum for our kids at home is a worthy search, so long as we realize it’s a search for discovering our children, not a search for a way to make our children be the ideal person we want them to be. If we have an ideal of who our children are supposed to be, we’ll be searching for the right curriculum until our children leave home.

I propose that we change our search for curriculum into a frame of mind of discovery. When we see it as a window into our children’s world, and into our own hearts, it will become an entirely different process. And the best thing? It creates less grief. Because instead of being frustrated that a curriculum doesn’t work, instead, we can be glad because it has taught us something about ourselves and our children. Every trial and error we make adds to the equation, and no effort is worthless, no time is wasted, and probably the most important, no money is wasted.

Curriculum is not the enemy. It’s not any more an enemy as the proverbial hammer is to a new carpenter. How and why we use any kind of non-experiential curriculum (i.e. workbooks and textbooks) is far more important than whether or not we are using it in the first place.

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In Favor of Public School, Against Compulsory Education and Attendance

867456_behind_bars.jpgDoes our country still need compulsory school attendance? Or is it as outdated as carbon copies and scantrons?

The pros and cons of removing compulsory school attendance are numerous. One of the biggest cons is that we can’t be sure what the larger effect on our culture and society will be. The benefits, on the other hand, might be worth it.

What we know for sure is that, despite what many people believe to be true, education is not compulsory in our country. It is physically impossible to impose an education on people (it is tried though, isn’t it?) Dennis Fermoyle, author of In the Trenches: A Teacher’s Defense of Public Education, offers some thoughts on the value of forcing children to go to school, and what the changes might be if we didn’t.

I like his piece because it isn’t a public school fan-boy diatribe, nor is it a “throw the baby out with the bath water” anti-school rant. It is a reasoned look at an educational reform that just might make a real difference.

Of course, there’s no way to know what the end result of removing compulsory education would be. On the one hand, it might have the effect of increasing the polarization of our country and encouraging a societal phase of “Oh my god, we’re free, let’s party!” On the other hand, it might be exactly what we need, requiring only a short period of adjustment before we move into a stage where we prove that we’re a responsible society, with a high number of individuals who can take care of themselves if given the opportunity.

Random Fact for the Day - Libration

895136_moon.jpgNo, that’s not “liberation”. It’s “libration”.

Apparently, the moon wobbles in its orbit. Check out the cool animation.

Speaking of the moon, did anyone get a clear sky for the lunar eclipse two nights ago?

Little did I know that my friend Michelle and I had scheduled our monthly homeschool information night on the same day as the eclipse. Needless to say, it was a small meeting.

We joked around with the Barnes and Noble events coordinator that the meeting was small because of the eclipse. He laughed. But I think he thought we were joking.

Homeschool News Roundup - Feb. 20

953849_news_2.jpgThese are the stories and comments that were published today and yesterday about homeschooling:

There’s No Place Like Homeschooling - This article comes out of Missouri. It’s a general information piece that attempts to be neutral, relying heavily on quotes. As newspaper articles go, it’s not bad. It has the requisite public school official’s opinion at the end, and an overview of the Missouri laws. I’m not sure if the article is accurate about the laws though. Anyone from Missouri want to comment?

Homeschooling Hurdles - This is a short, but interesting, piece on the difficulties that some homeschoolers have been having in Connecticut. Even though the piece is supposed to be about how public schools are not complying with educational codes (or, perhaps it’s a law, the article doesn’t say), the reporter can’t help but try to “explain” why people choose to homeschool. At least this wasn’t a piece simply to gawk at homeschoolers and how strange they are, but a piece in response to a group that gathered at the capital.

Homeschool students ease into life at the U of C - It has been discovered, much to the world’s amazement, that homeschooled kids do OK at the University of Chicago. Ok, all kidding aside, this is an article about various homeschool kids’ impressions of their experiences in college. The overall gist of the article is that homeschooled kids do just fine in college - as long as they’ve had the same kind of education as public school kids. There are some references to how learning differently was an advantage, but mostly they are referred to as disadvantages. One good part about this article - it takes a look at several of the stereotypes that homeschooled kids face.

More black families opting for homeschooling - I’m not sure of how many black families live in Ohio, but this article shows that at least one black family has decided to homeschool their children. The reason’s this family decided to homeschool is the main focus of the article (as homeschooling articles almost always are), and the fact that one homeschool activist has seen an increase in the number of black families in her area is mentioned one time, in passing. Ok, journalistic nitpicking aside, this article brings up a very important point - social pressure to go to school doesn’t always come from a place of trying to control, but a place of trying to promote freedom. Black history is complicated and intimately tied in with the American educational system. I can see how it would be a particularly hard social decision for black families to homeschool.

Does the Bible Mandate Homeschooling? - For those of you who are Christian, and are interested in what the bible says (and how people interpret what the bible says), about whether or not Christians should homeschool, check out this blog post. It is long, but worth the read. And the discussion afterwards has 137 comments.

Changes in Homeschooling Laws in Virginia - There have been some changes in Virginia’s homeschooling record keeping laws (at least, that’s what I’m gathering from this post). If you are in VA, get in touch with your state organization to get the details.

A new Christian Unschooler shares her thoughts - It always thrills me to see the marriage of Christianity and unschooling (or some form of relaxed homeschooling). It helps defeat certain stereotypes when we have a larger diversity in the homeschooling community.

Unschooling Voices #13 call-out - Joanne is looking for more submissions to her unschooling voices blog carnival. Her question is: What do you do, as an unschooling parent, when your child expresses an interest in a particular topic, and you don’t know how to help them in a way that doesn’t involve lesson plans and curriculum? (You can find the link to the current unschooling voices over there on the right.)

That’s it for today! Happy homeschooling.

Carnival of Homeschooling

345911_33165816.jpgThe newest carnival of homeschooling is up. If you aren’t familiar with blog carnivals, they are a collection of blog posts pertaining to homeschooling. In this carnival, any topic is fair game (and I don’t think posts are rejected unless they are spam). So, if you’re interested in reading a wide variety of opinions about homeschooling, this is the place.

If you own a blog, and want to get a little more exposure, submitting to the carnival (and even better, hosting it), is a great way to let the online world know you’re there.

Have fun over there! Don’t eat too much popcorn.

Homeschool Teacher Training

95633_math_teacher.jpgRecently, I was in a conversation where a homeschooling mom wanted to start a homeschool teacher training program. (Scroll down to see a sample.)

When I first heard her intention, my immediate reaction was to think, “You’re barking up the wrong tree.” But then I realized, I lot of people would probably sign up for something like this. In fact, many of the new homeschooler’s I’ve talked to have asked questions about homeschooling that a homeschooling class would promise to answer.

Do homeschoolers need training? What are the benefits and the disadvantages to offering a class like this?

One of the first problems I see with a homeschool teacher training is how easy it would be to reinforce school-parent ideas in the home education setting. School teachers, or those with “a lot of experience teaching many kids” can offer such a class, and provide lots of solid, experienced-based advice…for the classroom. This kind of class can easily perpetrate the idea that homeschooling is, and should be, school at home.

Now, what if this class were taught in a completely different way? What if it was a more open-ended, self-discovery sort of course? Instead of being told what to think, the teacher helps the parents see how much freedom and flexibility they have in teaching their kids at home. In essence, it would be a class in deschooling. Is that an oxy-moron? Would it be possible to teach without teaching in a classroom setting?

The other problem with offering a teacher training course to new homeschoolers is that it just might catch on. I could see how easily it would become the de-facto expectation of all homeschoolers to take such a course. If that’s the case, isn’t that, again, buying into the very system that we left?

A teacher training course for new homeschoolers is a neat idea - to teachers. I say this, having been a teacher, that it does appeal to me in that, “I want to help people,” sort of way. But it’s not helping people to offer a homeschool teacher training course. It’s actually encouraging people to hang on to the apron strings and pull the school mentality of top-down education right into their own living rooms.

I’m not saying that school-at-home is bad, or that people who choose to use that method are not effective educators. (They are. I’ve seen it.) What I’m saying is that learning how to be a homeschooler is not taught. It’s not something we can take a class on. We can only become better educators to our children with experience and self-motivation. (This is also true of classroom educators, BTW.)

And here’s the truth - if we want to be better homeschoolers, everything we need to know is already easily available to us. There are no longer any gatekeepers to knowledge.

This is the biggest truth that new homeschoolers must learn - that our culture creates the illusion that we must be allowed into the grand library of information by a certified key-holder. By offering classes that “train” homeschoolers, we are perpetuating that myth. New homeschoolers have to go through their own growing pains to discover, on their own, that everything they could possibly want to know about how to be a better homeschooler is already available to them. Everything they want to know about motivation, management, school subjects, being successful, or anything else, is right there waiting to be discovered. No key required.

That said, here’s a free sample of my own version of homeschool teacher training. Feel free to add anything in the comments.

1. As your homeschool teacher training facilitator, I encourage you to question everything I say. Question every person who tells you how to homeschool. But also listen carefully, and let new ideas bounce around in your head. In the end it’s up to you to decide on what’s right, but you can’t make a wise choice on what’s right unless you are willing to listen to what people are saying. And you can’t make a wise choice if you take what the experts say as truth without question. (And, anyone who is insulted or angered by your questioning or doubt, take a big step back and find another source for information.)

2. Theory is important, but practice is more important. The best source of information on how to make decisions in your family are the members of your family. What might sound good in a book, or what might sound good coming from an experienced homeschooler, may or may not work for you. It’s not about what “should” work, but what “does” work.

3. Have a clear grasp of what’s important to you and your family. If you know what’s important to you, then all other decisions come a lot easier.

4. It’s not what you know, but who/where you know. Make it a priority to get informed on who knows the haps around town, and know where to get all kinds of information. Become your own door to the universal library of knowledge.

5. Relationships trump all. If I had to pick one thing that makes the biggest difference in homeschooling success, it would be the strength of our family relationships. If you got that, you’re set.

6. Check your ego at the door. When you’re homeschooling, it ain’t about you, folks. It’s about the kids. Deal with your own issues, come to terms with your own educational experiences, then move on. Don’t get confused between what’s best for the kids and your own educational or life hang-ups.

7. Find at least 10 different sources on how to teach children at home, and read them all. I can’t make you understand the importance of getting a diverse set of opinions on homeschooling. You can only see it once you do your own research.

8. Teach your children like this is your last day on earth. Or, teach them like it’s your first. Either way, it’s better than wasting our precious time because we’re obsessed with the future, or than teaching our kids as if we (parents/adults) have nothing left in this world to discover.

9. In the immortal words of Tom Cochrane, “Life is a highway, I’m gonna ride it, all night long….” Live life with your kids. Enjoy your time with them. Be in the “now”, and keep your head high as you gather more and more life experiences. You’re making memories with them.

What’s your number 10 to add to the unofficial, homeschool un-teacher untraining?

Deschooling Gently Update

deschooling.jpgFor all of you who are sitting on the edge of your seat waiting for news about Deschooling Gently, I’m happy to say that I just received an email from my publisher saying that she doesn’t need any more from me right now.

Can you believe it!? Deschooling Gently is only a few short months away from being on the NY bestseller list! Er… I mean.. well, at least you’ll be able to buy it from Amazon.

If you’re interested in getting yourself a copy before all of your friends beat you to it, head on over to my publisher’s website to pre-order it.

(This is where Tammy takes a pause to do a little dance…. there, all done. Wewt.)

Keep your eyes peeled for the ongoing saga that is… Deschooling Gently - the book. (I wonder if there will be a movie version….)

Songs by Geniuses Who Didn’t Belong in School

935615_concert.jpgAs we all know, school isn’t the best match for those who are highly creative. It’s no wonder, then, that many songs by talented artists express criticism of school. People of genius, and that includes musicians, don’t belong in school.

I was listening to some Paul Simon today, who is undoubtedly a musical genius, and heard this song, called Kodachrome.

Kodachrome - Words & music by Paul Simon

When I think back
On all the crap I learned in high school
It’s a wonder
I can think at all
And though my lack of edu—cation
Hasn’t hurt me none
I can read the writing on the wall

Kodachrome
They give us those nice bright colors
They give us the greens of summers
Makes you think all the worlds a sunny day, oh yeah
I got a Nikon camera
I love to take a photograph
So mama don’t take my kodachrome away

If you took all the girls I knew
When I was single
And brought them all together for one night
I know theyd never match
My sweet imagination
And everything looks worse in black and white

Kodachrome
They give us those nice bright colors
They give us the greens of summers
Makes you think all the worlds a sunny day, oh yeah
I got a Nikon camera
I love to take a photograph
So mama don’t take my kodachrome away

I wonder though, if kids of genius aren’t forced to go to school, where will they place their creative angst? And what would they write about? Perhaps geniuses need something to rebel against, to ignite that passionate spirit and to create amazing works of art? What do you think? Can a comfortable and happy genius still create inspired works of art?

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What Do Homeschoolers Do On Valentine’s Day?

951222_frameheart.jpgThis homeschooling family doesn’t buy boxes of Hannah Montana valentines cards. In fact, we rarely do more than buy a card for each other, then wish everyone we see a Happy Valentine’s Day.

This year, to the amazement and shock of our friends and family, we made cards. Simple pink postcards, with a heart decal in the middle, a heart sticker on the top and a note from us. Nothing fancy. Yet, with three kids helping, it did take quite a bit of time and coordination. All in all, we made 20, for our closest friends and family. Then we mailed them. On time, even!

I love the spirit of Valentine’s Day. It’s a day to pay very close to attention to the love we give to people in our lives. It’s also a day to get lots of smiles and hugs. We don’t need cards and gifts to celebrate that. But I have to say, that making the cards was a loving gesture that made us happy. We felt the love go into every card, every message, every signature…

What does your homeschooling family do on Valentine’s Day?

Oh, and BTW, Happy Valentine’s Day, with lots of cyber hugs to you all!

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